Here is a story, Mark’s story. Struggling with addiction is not an easy thing to do. From a cognitive-behavioral therapy point of view, Mark is learning that it takes serenity to accept that he does not control things outside of himself – the he, she, it, them. It takes courage to change the three things that he does control – his own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. And, it takes real wisdom to know the difference. As a take on what Aristotle has said about anger, I like to apply his words to abstinence: “Anyone can become sober. That is easy. But to be sober with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way, that is not easy.” Please enjoy Mark’s story as a true effort to change one’s thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
Addicts in psychotherapy are often ambivalent about whether they are ready to act compassionately, even if their own recovery depends on it. You may ask, what could possibly cause ambivalence in the area of compassion?
Many business people involved in some aspect of the recovery business world (e.g. IOPs, PHPs, Detox) are not aware of the punishing laws that apply to their marketing arrangements. Simply paying someone commission-based sales compensation without fully appreciating the applicable laws is dangerous and costly.
“I am doomed. I felt shame. I felt that I am worthless and no one could ever love me – not even God. The only one that could love me is Lucifer.”