In both physical and mental health, we know we can control a good deal.
We can choose which foods we will eat or avoid; we can choose to
exercise or keep the couch company; and we can learn how to manage or
avoid certain life stressors. However, at some point, many of us still
believe other factors are well outside our control: namely, genes.
One of the most popular current forms of addiction treatment is Motivational Interviewing (MI), developed by Drs. Bill Miller and Stephen Rollnick. The MI system seems comfortable and useful for both therapists and clients.
The intention in writing this article is not to bash parents or caregivers but rather to illustrate, through personal experience, the impact childhood messages have on the roles we play in adulthood. It’s fair to state that our caregivers created the first perceptions we had on the way we view the world and the way we believed the world viewed us. I had a conversation with my eight-year-old son where he explains this better than I.